In honor of today being Valentine’s day, I wanted to share a wonderful “go to” book I find myself sharing with families and friends. I love this book because of the simplicity of the message and the promise of finding something new and fun to do with your children to show them ANY day that you love them.

The book is, “I Love You Rituals” by Becky Bailey, PhD. The softcover book has 208 pages filled with simple to learn rhymes and games that provide reassurance during scary times, simple reminders that your love is unconditional and helps to promote positive parent-child interactions. The book is suitable for use for any child between infancy and 8 years.

I love telling families about it because you can flip through the book and choose a few simple activities, songs or rhymes and begin learning and doing them with your child. Some include learning the hand motions to the classic nursery rhyme, “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” to interactive finger plays to “Mr. Sun” or “On Your Face.”

The author states that the four goals of I Love You Rituals are to:

  • optimize your child’s brain for success by increasing your child’s attention span and cooperation (let’s face it, whenever you sing a song during clean up time or to signal a transition, things go much smoother!)
  • increase children’s learning potential and effectiveness through touch (touch is such a powerful way to provide reassurance, nurturance and connection with one another)
  • creates family rituals to weather out the storm when life throws curveballs your way (rituals and routines have a way to center us to what we know and create a way for us to find calm during uncertainty)
  • provides everyday ways to promote and strengthen parental-child bonds essential for optimal social-emotional wellness (especially helpful to promote small but critical “time in” touch points throughout the day)

The book has a companion set of CDs of the songs as well.

I am always on the look out for simple, brief but fun tools to promote positive parent-child interactions. Think about some of these to use with your child or counsel families with during well child visits. Soothing rituals and routines are helpful to all. Similar to a “secret handshake” these sweet and charming ‘I love you rituals’ are sure to be an easy way to show your child you care.

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If you want to check it out, here is the link below! Happy singing, reading and playing and show your child you love them everyday!


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Nerissa Bauer

I am a behavioral pediatrician, consultant, child advocate and blogger. I am a wife, mommy to 2 amazing children and 2 golden retrievers. Love cooking, travel, reading, tap and creating.