62: ADHD Isn’t You: Hank’s Story of Hope and Self-Advocacy
SHOW SUMMARY:
Hank’s ADHD story will change how you think about diagnosis, medication, and support If you have a child or teen with ADHD, or your teen is heading into college in a few years, this conversation hits hard in the best way. Hank shares what it really looks like to grow up with ADHD, figure out what his brain needs, and learn how to advocate for himself without turning ADHD into either a shame story or an excuse. Dr. Nerissa Bauer and Dr. Jennifer Dilts unpack Hank’s lived experience as a powerful Stories of Hope episode for ADHD Awareness Month. From the first grade classroom clues to the jump from high school structure into college independence, Hank explains why structure, movement, and a cognitive outlet matter so much, and why “you just have to start somewhere” may be the most practical advice of all.
You’ll hear Hank get real about:
- The early signs that adults noticed before he did
- Why medication felt unnecessary at first, and what changed his mind
- How different doses and formulations became part of the journey
- Why ADHD can look different across siblings, even in the same family The role of a parent who is both supportive and honest
- How to ask for accommodations in college and why documentation matters early
- He also shares the tools that keep him steady now, including visual scheduling, a pill box, calendar reminders, a time timer, journaling, and building a life with enough physical and social outlet to avoid burnout.
If you have ever wondered whether ADHD means something is wrong with you, this episode offers a grounded, hopeful answer: it doesn’t. Dr. Bauer and Dr. Dilts bring the clinician and parent perspective, but Hank’s voice is what makes this one stick. His story is especially meaningful for boys and young men who need to hear ADHD explained by someone living it, and for parents trying to strike that delicate balance between support, accountability, and trust. Essential listening if you want a practical, honest, and encouraging conversation that can spark real discussion with your child, teen, or young adult.
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